Full-time job, full-time ministry, full-time life

Balancing time for my job, time with my husband, time to clean my house, time for youth ministry, time for family, time for friends...and time for ME

Being a wife requires a lot of my time and adding the youth ministry part requires even more. I'd say 80 percent of my time is spent with youth or at church, and while I love spending time with the youth and serving God, sometimes...my heart isn't there because I'm worn out.

I make a 30-minute commute to a 40 to 50 hour-a-week job at a small daily newspaper as a general assignment reporter. This job not only brings me joy, but it's nerve-wracking dealing with people's lives and emotions and making sure everything is correct and almost perfect so that people don't complain...because they will.

I then make a 30-minute drive home to my wonderful husband (WH), who sometimes cooks supper for us, but sometimes not, so I have to cook and then clean and then, honestly most of the time it's time for bed.

WH and I do try to spend as much time as we can together, but sometimes that time is even hard to find.

Then Wednesday, Thursday, sometimes Friday or Saturday, and Sunday, I come home from work and begin my second "job" (I call it this because it's not really a job...it's a joy, but you get what I mean). I love this line of "work" because it's what my husband is called to do and what I feel like I've been called to do as well, or at least help with.

Then in between all of those activities I find time to call my mom, my brother, my friends...and sometimes...only sometimes...do I find time to meet up with them for some bonding time.

So with all of this being said, and after all of that is done, then I have time for ME.

Now, don't take this in a selfish sort of way. It is, but it isn't.

I know we should serve one another (Gal. 5:13, 1 Peter 4:10), but I have also learned whole-heartedly over the past few months and days (after trials and tribulations over the past year)... that unless I make time for ME then I won't be able to server others effectively.

I know what you're thinking..."No, you need to make time for God. That's when you will be able to serve more effectively."

But that is actually what I mean exactly...making time for ME means taking time for Me and Elohim (Hebrew word for God).

I came up with this acronym to remind myself when I'm being selfish and wanting ME time...that what I really need is time alone with Him.

Sometimes time alone with God means spending time in prayer. Sometimes it means spending time reading the Bible, God's word. Sometimes it means time worshiping Him by myself, singing songs of praise. And sometimes it means just being in his presence, meditating on His word, His silence...without thinking about any worries, stress, anxieties, schedules, to-do lists....just thinking about Him and basking in his glorious presence.

Even Jesus took time out of his busy "schedule" to spend time with God (Mark 1:35).

I found out yesterday that I don't do this enough. And you know what...even sometimes...spending time with God means spending time with people...my family...my friends...the Church.

Yesterday I spent the day with my mom and saw my brother, step-brother and step-dad.

Spending time with them was refreshing...away from my dirty house...away from taking care of someone else...and even away from youth ministry...

I was supposed to have to work this weekend, but somehow I was able to come home for a few days.

Now I know it was a Godsend. He knew I needed time away, time with people he put in my life.

And now I know the importance of making time for ME...you should do the same :)

Resting in His Peace,
MYM

P.S. How do you manage your time as a youth minister's wife?

Why I created Mrs. Youth Minister

I have only been a youth minister’s wife for one year, but I’ve been working alongside my husband (then boyfriend) for the past four years.

I’ve learned a lot in these four years, and even more since we’ve been married.

I didn’t exactly “grow up in the church,” but I knew who God was and my parents wanted me to have a relationship with him. We didn’t go to church every Sunday and Wednesday, and I was never part of a youth group.

So with that being said…I never thought I’d be a woman who would marry a youth minister or be involved in the lives of teenagers on a daily basis.

Now I absolutely love working with teenagers and showing them Christ’s love.

And while I love this opportunity to mentor and nurture youth to love Christ, sometimes it’s difficult being a youth minister’s wife let alone a wife.

That’s why I wanted to create this blog.

I’ve been to the other youth minister/pastor wives websites and blogs and while they are interesting and somewhat relatable, I feel like I can’t ever find the advice I’m looking for.

So this blog, I hope, will serve as a way to connect with other youth minister’s wives.

I want to be able to give one another practical tips on how to handle a houseful of teenagers, how to stay involved with the entire church and not just the youth ministry and also many other “tricks” on how to love God, live life and be an effective youth minister’s wife…not just to the youth, but our husbands as well.

So far it’s been an interesting journey, and I hope that this road trip through life and ministry will continue to reveal God’s will for each of us and His glory to the nations.

Saved by Grace,

MYM